Everything is Lost? How to Recover Gracefully
By Dr. Val
Whether natural disaster, man-made disaster, foolishness or delusions, at some point many of us suffer what we deem to be an irreversible down-turn. It isn't really, but if you buy into believing that, you might become another statistic, so don't believe it. As long as there is still even a tiny spark of Life left, the possibility to go on exists. After the disaster of hurricane Katrina, many people recovered. True, they had to move elsewhere, uprooting families and traditions, but they recovered, or at least started to. The same thing happened with the earthquake in Haiti, as it happened with the tsunami in Indonesia, and the earthquakes in China and Japan. People will pick themselves up and go on. Life must keep on going; that is the universal mandate.
While the USA is suffering something that we don't want to label as a Depression, and people are angry at governmental excess and mismanagement of the country's funds, there are still ways to get on with life. The requirement is this: DECIDE to move on. Step one is always the decision to proceed. You don't have to know how; you just have to decide that is what you will do. Step two involves some observation and investigation. If you have no money for food, go find out where to get food. For those in big cities, there are food banks, churches, shelters, community kitchens, and governmental programs that are set up. If you need shelter, check out the community resources. If you are a stranded motorist, check out agencies that help with getting cars repaired, like St. Vincent de Paul. If you need clothing, check with churches and shelters. If you need medical care, go to a county hospital or public health office. In any case, get off your hindquarters and figure out where to go to get what you need. Drop the grief and feeling of betrayal and get busy. You can grieve over what you have lost when you have taken care of the basic survival needs.
Step three is one that many people forget: be grateful. If someone gives you something that helps you, thank them. This is not a time to be picky; this is a time to be grateful that you have food, a safe place to sleep, warm clothes, friends, and people willing to help. I find it interesting that often the people who have the least are the most willing to give what they have to help others in need...isn't helping others what we all need to do?
Step four involves planning what to do next. If you have no imagination, go find someone who will help you make your plan. There are plenty of senior citizens around who would be more than happy to be asked for help in their area of expertise. Step four includes moving in the direction you have chosen, even if it is one tiny step at a time--just keep moving.
So what if you can't find a job that you have been doing for 20 years? Maybe it's the universe's way of telling you it's time for a change. Diversify; find what is needed and fill the gap. It doesn't take money to provide a service that is needed; it just takes willingness. Take a page from the self-made millionaires and 'get real': do what it takes to get where you want to be. That is the secret that creates an "overnight success"; add to that "without harm to others" and you've got a winning combination.
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