By Dr. Val
There are so many people out there who feel alone, from little old ladies who keep too many cats, to teenagers who contemplate suicide, thinking that no one will ever love them. We all come into this world alone and then get spit into a frenzy of activity. We have people all our lives that won't leave us alone, and yet so many still think they are alone? Holey moley people...how many people do you need to have in your lives to feel 'not alone'? If you really want to feel as if you are a part of something, then become a part of something. Start with a club or some kind of gathering of like minds. From there friendships may occur and perhaps love will evolve.
The basic construct of all humans is that we want to love and be loved in return. Remember that Bob Marley song "Could You Be Love? Then Be Love!" and learn to love yourself first. When you learn to truly love your self, you will discover there is no loneliness. In most cases, ‘alone’ is a choice. In order to be with another person and truly love them, one must love ones self first. How can you give love if you do not have it? This is one reason that so many people have pets; they are seeking to know how to love. Our pets give us that unconditional love that we know we are missing here. Start slow and easy; give a kind word to someone in passing, look them in the eyes and really smile. Feel that soul connection that happens and see the light in their eyes as they realize you are seeking to give them the gift of recognition: "in Lak-ech" (I am another yourself).
One does not come out of feeling alone by sitting alone in the house. Go out and engage with others of like mind; find a hobby or an interest that can be shared with others. Go volunteer where people need someone to talk with or abandoned animals need to be cared for. Whatever you can find that helps you to come out of your shell and become a part of the world, do that. Instead of sitting home alone on the computer, moaning about how alone you feel, get off your butt and go do something with other people. Go learn something, help someone, or just hang out with some like-minded people. Learn about your self and start to appreciate the uniqueness of who you are...there is only one of you in the entire world. Only you have the attributes you exhibit, no one else. As a unique human, you have something to offer the world. Even if you don't hit it off right away with most of the people out there, don't give up. Find the group you resonate with or learn how to interact with others in a socially acceptable manner. Hint: stay away from political crap; it only leads to anger and depression. Work on yourself. Refuse to be isolated. Get new, helpful knowledge or skills and help others. You can always improve and become more; just don't give up on yourself.
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